I was about to switch off the TV and my eyes struck in a talk show, it was about what actress kushbu said about virginity and sex, the same had started a big controversy in tamil nadu had its sparks here in kerala that time. well everyone just forgot about it and the thing came to spotlight few days back when the supreme court of India made an obvious observation on the plot that "sex before marriage is no way a crime, yet its a right of the individual" it may not be the exact words but the gist. a lot of talks were going on about it and several religious leaders and other figures stood against it as it denies the perfect explanation of family and it promotes the youth to go against our culture and tradition.
i'd clearly like to go with what kushbu said, there are a number of reasons for that. the first will be that i consider sex to be just a drive, like any other say hunger,thirst etc.. sex is not something to be considered too important at all, its just a function of the body. we in our culture that made the entire thing so important and our religiously intertwined lives just made it more miserable. people have a feeling that seeking sex is somewhat of a sin, its deeply routed in the religions structure that says sex or sexual pleasures is a sin and against god. we see the majority in christianity that priests and nuns are not allowed to marry and submerging the bodily needs is considered to be divine. both are not having anything to do with a common man but the mere thought of sex is a sin is continuously fed into people's mind by all of these factors.
Virginity - i don't even know why people even care about such a thing in the world, its just an age old concept that the woman should be a virgin till marriage but the same clause allowed men more freedom, only women should follow the laws of virginity. i don't know how such an inherently flawed rule exits itself, as it just let half of the population free while the other half should follow it strictly.
the people opposes kushbu says that they're protectors of the system but are they?, i really wonder how women would go aligned all these rules made by men just to control women, may be they don't know or they just got trapped in an image created by a male dominant society. they got trapped in a model or guidelines to be a perfect woman. the laws of virginity and sex against women is made because they wouldn't express their selves in this world, the feminine character is denied here and more interestingly women support these laws wholeheartedly, Pure ignorance.
even today when a girl reaches her maturity she is not allowed to make her choice about a mate, a lot of social and religious thing come into play and its all a mess, while the parents could play an active part in choosing the one or correcting the mistakes but its not a freedom on individual choice, but what happens here is parents decide everything, since we rely on a common assumption that parents know their kids more, but is that true today? you should be asking yourself.
people here relies and believes on a euphoric world called family. it defines the world to us and everything is so perfect, but do we actually have something like that?. we think we do, but we don't. what we have is a good old concept and the exact opposite is real life. in most of the homes the decisions come from the head of the family and that is the male, the female is not allowed to express her true feelings other than what we, males allowed them to. yet women find it more than that they need. the ones who is responsible for such a state is the mothers of today and previous years. we mark different lines for girls and boys, we give different places for boys and girls, everything is different and we make up 2 different class of people. one with an inferiority complex, the other with superiority. and we still complain girls are not opening up, women are not doing anything productive, women waste their time. yes true, the actual fact we never let them, isn't that the truth?
The world is waiting and the decision and desire should spark in yourself girl, think!.
IS THIS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO BE OR IS THIS WHAT I WANT YOU TO BE???
ITS ALL ABOUT YOU...
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